Gratitude Journal

AJ

AJ

 

1. evening routines

2. Gifts 2

3. Dr Baker, ENT

4. Natalie Dixon’s willingness to give the Momma’s suggestion a try

5. Tubes!

6. A safe return from general anesthesia

7. Classic Trisomy 21

8. A quick and friendly geneticist

9. Dinner on the table

10. A day with the little one

11. Lovey’s attentiveness

12. a certain almost 3 yr old saying, ” Thank you Momma for my salad, I’m going to try it, Mommy I like it!” (even though you know she probably won’t eat it- this time at least

13. Homemade lasagna- down to the noodle!

14. a friend’s crafty ways designing super-hero capes

15. a last minute dinner invitations

16. a rainy day

17. Rainy Day Music- The Jayhawks

18. Fairy wings and tu-tus

19. New Q

20. Lovey’s love

21. “New to us” Zutano duds

22. nursing a baby to sleep w/out any aids

Fave-O-Lit Fridays

Arrival

Arrival of Zuzu

First Breath of The Quail
First Breath of The Quail

In the Basket Marty Brought to the

Hospital After the Cesarean

by Thorpe Moeckel

 

Asparagus-pasta cobbler; raspberry bread; fresh
baked whole wheat bread; collages

young Molly did
on construction paper – de Kooning-esque –

with catalog clippings, great swirlies
of magic

marker, & filaments of glitter-laced glue;
Parmesan-mushroom wild rice;

boxed pear juice, boxed mixed fruit juice;
soy milk; mangoes; cold

cucumber-yogurt soup; fresh strawberries;
cut lilac; blackberry tea;

a hand-turned ceramic vase; a doll
sewn of scrap fabric, of stuffed athletic sock;

and a bouquet of herbs: fresh
mint, fresh rosemary, freshest sage.

“In the Basket Marty Brought to the Hospital After the Cesarean” by Thorpe Moeckel, from Odd Botany. © Silverfish Review Press, 2002.

The Quail’s Day, 7 months into it & loving it

Neck n Neck

Neck n Neck

This photo is respresentative of the culmination of a recent physical or gross motor spurt.  See that neck? I was staring at this photo trying to figure out what was different and all of a sudden I realized there was a neck! It seems that physical therapy is kicking in! The Quail turned 7 months a couple of days ago and we can offiicially say that she is tripod sitting- for a few seconds and then down she goes. Her trouble lies in that reflex to jut herself back when she is upright. But on the whole she is balancing in a sitting position better. When you pull lightly on her hands when she is laying on her back you can see when she activates her stomach muscles and starts doing the work. When I hold her I can now count on her latching onto and proceding to eat whatever I am holding. It happens daily as it still catches me off guard and I don’t think to move what I’m holding out of her reach.
She’s completely full of charm and appeal these days.  Right now as I type and pump she is showing off next to the desk holding her bottle to her mouth in one hand and grabbing her toes with her other. This is new. PT is focusing on belly strengthening activities and it’s done wonders. When we hold out her diaper to her she lifts her little legs. When we walk up to her and say, “Up-up” she lifts her little arms up. And the grins and giggles are easy to come by these days and we are eating them up! She also smacks her lips when she is hungry and she anticipates you tickling her when you start to lean over her.
Her favorite things right now are her peeps (she’s more of a people then a toy kiddo), her blankies- hand her one and she unabashadly snuggles it up to her mouth and rubs it back and forth across her face with great zest. Her exersaucer- She will play with the toys attached to it and also whatever you set on it- babydoll or spoon- up it goes to her mouth.  She also watches Baby Einstein- Baby Wordsworth (Or Baby Ruff-Ruff as Zu calls it)  intently.. She’s hanging out in her high chair during mealtimes and watching us closely- we’ll start cereals soon.
Nursing is still not going well- honestly I’m not finding enough time to practice each day which is extremely disappointing but also a reality. Everytime I sit down to try- her sister comes in and wants to nurse- which was so beautiful in the first week home and one of the reasons I champion as to their bond- it’s such a hard thing. But that’s life right- bittersweet? 

Fluid-Free

Yay-hoo!

Yay-hoo!

Thanks to everyone for all of their good thoughts, prayers and wishes! The Quail came through swimmingly. There was fluid in both of her ears today, although not a lot and it wasn’t infected. It was a relatively quick process. She was cheerful and chipper this morning prior to it,   of our not offering her, her breakfast. I had woken prior to midnight last night to give her a last round of milk prior to the cut off.

Unfortunately Zuzu had an accident in the middle of the night which woke us all up so we did have to manage to swing the Quail back to sleep without any milk later. Her ENT is the same one that did Zu’s tubes and those worked out well so when we heard we were to treat any ear infections aggressively in order to minimize potential hearing loss we went to him and he was happy to do it with only the fluid retention instead of waiting for repeated infections. The anesthesiologist also dosed her with Zantac when I told him that she is an extremely spitty baby. We had asked our own pediatrician about this repeatedly and they had said that the Zantac would not stop the vomiting and that every baby has reflux and if she wasn’t crying or in pain or losing weight because of it then they would label her as a “happy spitter” and leave it at that.

Last night Jodie (EI) had urged us to ask for a referral to a pediatric gastroenterologist with all of the vomiting though and prior to that Kathy ( OT) had pointed out that even if she isn’t in pain because of the GERD that doesn’t mean it isn’t damaging her esophagus. Which is true as well- it is just so hard to know what to do sometimes.

Well since the zantac dose this morning she has had MINIMAL spit up- in fact I would even call it that- spit up- not vomiting. Perhaps it is a coincidence and she would have had a less spitty day- anyway? Who knows- all I know is she got Zantac this morning, the dr said it would take effect quickly and quiet the acid  in her stomach and now she is less spitty. So I called the pediatrician’s office  back when we got home and told the nurse what happened today and that I wanted to try Zantac to see if can make a difference. She spoke with the PA on duty who agreed it was fine to try and they called in the medicine.

Wish the little bird luck- I really hope it makes a difference for her- not only in terms of her own comfort and digestive health- but if this can minimize her vomiting- that can only maximize her growth and with every percentage we gain on the growth charts- that is one sure-footed step away from the cloud of potential open-heart surgery.

Today is definitely a good day.

Please think Good Thoughts for The Quail!

Attachment

Attachment

 

Please think good thoughts for The Quail tomorrow. She goes under general anesthesia for tube placement. Her sissy had this done at 1 yr- so we are a little nervous about her having it so young. But it is for the best for her speech and language development as she has been retaining fluid from an ear infection since the beginning of August.  Can’t wait to see if this helps her hearing!

Zuzu Day- Practice makes Perfect

Word up!

Word up!

 

The Birthday Girl-to-be caught a glimpse of the birthday cake she requested. Last weekend I decided I needed to practice making this cake. I work with a wonderful pastry chef and she gave me her red velvet cake recipe. Zuzu has requested a WordGirl birthday party and this will work together synergistically! The color turns out exactly the right shade of WordGirls superhero costume! Since PBS hasn’t seen fit to actually license out any paraphanalia yet I’ve been left to my own devices and this was what I could come up with in terms of decorations. I found I can make a cake stencil if I try hard enough. A dear friend is helping me to make the capes the kiddos attending will get to decorate and adorn their little selves with as well. Between those handy items a wonderful playground and good company I think the party will be a huge success.

Now I just have to explain to Zuzu that we don’t get to keep having practice cakes…..

Momma Monday- Momma loves Momma Zen

Baby Buddha

Baby Buddha

 

Have you met Karen Maezen Miller? Either in real life or online or in good-old-fashioned print? She’s one of my literary and Zen heros. As mentioned in my “Meet the Family” page I find I relate best to Zen parenting books in my aspirations of the kind of mother I want to be, and I do mean that in both definitions of kind. I know, I know- anyone who knows anything about Zen practice would probably be appalled by my striving to be Zen- it’s in line with when I used to repeatedly run late and have to hurry up to get to yoga class to finally settle in and find some peace of mind.

The book, Momma Zen was one of my favorites from my first parenting year. I remember when I was bringing it to work with me to read during my break times while I was pumping. I remember another coworker who was also a pumping mother saw me reading it and I tried to explain how I liked the sheer idea of Zen parenting. She laughed at me and told me to let her know how well that works in a few months. I squared my jaw, shook my head and headed into the friendly barn at work to pump (our lovely euphemism for the room they let us milk ourselves in at work) and read. Then I found her website Cheerio Road and found myself pondering her eloquent thoughts on a regular basis. The one that touched me the most and let me know that indeed I do have a home in this school of thought was actually this one. Her list of letting go happened to coincide with my return to work post maternity leave with The Quail. The final line- “Baby is always right on schedule” has become my momtra in learning to live, love and learn with a baby who doesn’t necessarily develop according to the timelines that “the books” predict. I have it posted at work so I can look at it when I feel worried that she isn’t sitting like the other babies are or rolling the other babies are or talking like the other babies are.

Which by the way- yesterday she started sitting independently in that wonderful Weebles wobble way (we’ll continue to work on the not falling down part) yesterday- a day before she turned 7 months old. She started rolling from back to side with the occasional flip all the way to belly the week before and blowing raspberries in the last week as well. And did you notice- the first picture ever where you can see her little neck!

Baby is right on schedule.