I was going to post about our bird…but this dear boy needs your hearts more

I have all the time in the world to go on and on about my sweet Quail. Why? Because she’s here with me, with us, with a whole community of people who know and love her more than anything. She is blessed with a set of family, friends, caregivers and community members that are thrilled to bits over every single little thing she does. From standing up, to signing, to grins & giggles. She is blessed, and she blesses us everyday. She is changing hearts and minds about that stereotype hovering over people with intellectual disabilities. By merely knowing her, they know more. They know she is full of possibility and wonder. They know she is smart, kind, loving and adaptable.

Everyone who knows her, knows that. But not everyone knows her. In some countries the stigma and stereotypes around people with disabilities still form decisions and close minds to the possibility and wonder in children with disabilities.

Fortunately there are families out there who fight for these children. Good people like The Davis Family, who with the support of Reece’s Rainbow, raised thousands of dollars to be able to offer sweet Kirill a chance at a life with a forever family. They flew over the ocean and swam through the sea of redtape that is international adoption. They traveled to meet him two separate times and stood for 5 hours in front of a judge declaring their love and intentions to make a life for Kirill.

They were told no.

They were told Kirill is socially unadaptable because he carries a diagnosis of Down syndrome.

This is unacceptable. This dear boy will be locked in a mental institution for the rest of his life if a family is not allowed to adopt him. The family is there. The money to cover the expenses is there. The love is there. This family’s eyes are opened.

The judges are not.

I’m posting this in hopes of raising awareness. Money helps some situations. Hearts help others. Please spread the word about Kirill and stop by the Davis family blog to show your support in their efforts.

Come read Courtney’s words and see a video of Kirill with the momma who already loves him. Come open your eyes.

corner view: reflection


Corner view is a weekly Wednesday post hosted originally hosted by Jane, currently by  Francesca. A topic is given and you can see impressions; be it in photographic or poetic in form from around the world:

 Jane, Dana, Bonny, Joyce, Ian, Francesca, Theresa, Cate, Kasia, Otli, Trinsch, Isabelle, Janis, Kari, jgy, Lise, Dorte, McGillicutty, Sunnymama, Ibb, Kelleyn, Ninja, Sky, RosaMaria, Juniper, Valerie, Sammi, Cole, Don, WanderChow, FlowTops, Tania, Tzivia, Kristin, Laura, Guusje, Susanna, Juana, Elsa, Nadine

gratitude journal

1. silence

2. Pee-pee in the potty from a 2 year old- with no excitement but a very practical, “Right there”

3. coffee and motrin

4. Wino Wednesday with buddies!

5. A Lovey willing to watch the girls

6. spring flowers

7. allergy meds

8. a frank discussion ending well

9. options

10. 4  year old created potty charts

11. giggles

12. pooping in the potty!

13. Peeing in the potty almost everytime she is asked to!

14. birthday parties!

15. the weekend

16. recital pictures back already! So pretty!

17. a big sister teaching her lil sister how to use the potty

18. a big sister writing out a potty chart for her and her sis

19. laundry almost done

20. picture time with the new blooms before the storm

21. free time

Fave-O-Lit Friday

Prayer for Our Daughters

by Mark Jarman

May they never be lonely at parties
Or wait for mail from people they haven’t written
Or still in middle age ask God for favors
Or forbid their children things they were never forbidden.

May hatred be like a habit they never developed
And can’t see the point of, like gambling or heavy drinking.
If they forget themselves, may it be in music
Or the kind of prayer that makes a garden of thinking.

May they enter the coming century
Like swans under a bridge into enchantment
And take with them enough of this century
To assure their grandchildren it really happened.

May they find a place to love, without nostalgia
For some place else that they can never go back to.
And may they find themselves, as we have found them,
Complete at each stage of their lives, each part they add to.

May they be themselves, long after we’ve stopped watching.
May they return from every kind of suffering
(Except the last, which doesn’t bear repeating)
And be themselves again, both blessed and blessing

corner view: four-legged


Apparently my personal four-legged belongs to the same actors guild as my industry queen from last week. She was not into giving personal appearances.

Lovey and I both grew up with dogs and hope to have one someday, as does our two-legged-four-year-old. That said, I’ve always had a penchant for the feline four-legged variety. I had a gray kitty who was really more dog-like right out of college. His given name was Sasha but he came to Kitty. After he passed on due to kidney failure a few years back we had a brief interlude with a kitten who turned up in our garage that we named Solomon; after Solomon Burke. Sadly he was with us only 2 days and one vet visit and set of immunizations before deciding to move to the next town over. We hung signs and about a month later did receive a call indicating he had taken up residence with our local baker. I wish him lots of fresh cream daily. Ironically since then our four-year old will randomly name her future make-believe babies Solomon and announce how much she misses this kitty from two years ago.

About a year and a half ago she received the gift of her childhood when Lovey’s brother sent us the family cat to stay all the way from California. Chalula previously lived on Lovey’s Aunt’s farm in Northern California and eventually went to Southern California to live with the brother. When his job began to entail more regular travel he arranged for her to come be with us. Chula-Cat; as she’s called here, is less a fan of our smaller two-leggeds, but has the dog spirit of our former kitty as she leaps out of darkness each evening to come sit with us at the foot of our bed and happily greets any visitor that winds their way into our living room.

 This lil darling here is Tandy and belongs to our family friends. She’s a sweet kitty and will have to stand in for the family-four-legged-feline-for-now until Chula-Cat’s contract can be renegotiated to include photo interviews!

Corner view is a weekly Wednesday post hosted originally hosted by Jane, currently by  Francesca. A topic is given and you can see impressions; be it in photographic or poetic in form from around the world:

 Jane, Dana, Bonny, Joyce, Ian, Francesca, Theresa, Cate, Kasia, Otli, Trinsch, Isabelle, Janis, Kari, jgy, Lise, Dorte, McGillicutty, Sunnymama, Ibb, Kelleyn, Ninja, Sky, RosaMaria, Juniper, Valerie, Sammi, Cole, Don, WanderChow, FlowTops, Tania, Tzivia, Kristin, Laura, Guusje, Susanna, Juana, Elsa, Nadine

Mommaday: Dear new Momma…

The Quail

Dear New Momma,

 When I heard of your worry over the diagnosis your upcoming baby has received; that they may have Down syndrome and that you are scared,  I had a lot of things to say about the history of people with disabilities and the injustices they have endured throughout time. This morning when I woke up thinking about you again and your worries, I realized this was not the time to try to educate you on the world of disability. I say this as a person who has known and loved people with disabilities my entire life, family members, people in school, people in my jobs and fortunately now my sweet girl. The time will come when you are seeking that history on behalf of the child you know and love in order to be a strong advocate for him. But for now- now is not the time for you to gear up for that. You will know when that time comes. You have already advocated for your baby in the best way you can- by choosing to have him. It is a brave choice. You are having a sweet baby- a baby you will be a better person for having and knowing. Stand with us and let us guide you. Get to know us and the real stories of the real children who have Down syndrome that we raise every day of our lives- do not let others you don’t know fill your head with stereotypes that are born out of their sorrow, their guilt or their ignorance. Those of us in this forum, we have made the choice that you are making. Whether we had a pre-natal diagnosis or not- we’ve chosen to mother our children. No one can tell you what your child will be capable of- but I promise you- your child will know you, will love you, will want to please you, will achieve milestones. He will bring you great joy and you will be continually amazed by the tiniest and grandest things he does. You will get more out of your child by ten-fold then what you put in to him. Maybe a year from now, you will want to know the history, the culture, the great people and forces that have brought the world of disability into a strong place in our world- a place where we have the right to expect equal rights for every human being- regardless of ability. We will be here to help you with that when the time comes. The people who will stand with you and your child- they are strong and good and kind and intelligent and ready when you need them.

For now, you have a sweet baby in you who already loves you enough to make his way here. Turn your back on those naysayers. They are going to do nothing but needlessly upset you- and I promise you their information is not born out of fact and reality- it is born out of fear and a need to justify choices they made—it has nothing to do with you and your baby. They do not know what your child will be capable of. Any child presents struggles, challenges and more blessings then you deserve.


EVERY CHILD deserves someone who believes in them, and for your baby- that’s you Momma. It’s your calling- embrace it. Soon you’ll embrace him. The Down syndrome will not be his biggest struggle, other people’s ignorance will be.


another momma

PS: This letter was written for a very specific someone who was struggling with other’s scare-tactics around her decision to continue her pregnancy after having received a diagnosis that her baby has Down syndrome. If you find yourself in that same situation- know that this letter is for you as well. You can also go here and here for more support, love and information. We’re here for you too. 

Today is World Down syndrome Awareness Day. 3/21; as in 3 copies of that 21st Chromosome. Today is a day we celebrate our beloveds and shout about it from rooftops. If you or someone you love has Down syndrome- well; you are just blessed. Blessed like our sweet family.

gratitude journal

1. not being the pagent mom

2. not having the pagent kid

3. green day

4. finding a green snack- pear applesauce!

5. making it through pictures with everyone still smiling and no ripped tights

6. dinner in the mountains

7. dinner at a friends

8. the happy baker asking how my morning is going as Lovey is ushering the loudest of the 2 children outside

9.a birthday party invitation

10. finding the canvas I wanted for the girls room

11. Keeping calm and carrying on

12. houses to see

13. garlic-basil-3 cheese bread

14. motrin

15. a fairly quick run of a fever

16. a happy baby despite the fever

17. playdates

18. cherry- white chocolate scones

19. an evening on the porch with moonlight and Lovey

20. panda bear children tumbling around with each other

21. spring flowers blooming