Snow Day take two!

And we continue to be snowed in with our little world shut down once again! Most likely once the sun comes up tomorrow we’ll be back into our regular patterns but in the meantime- here’s a few more frosted beauties to share:

Gratitude Journal

1. Parents who are celebrating 47 years of marriage! Wow! Congratulations Mom & Dad- that is such an amazing accomplishment

2. Parents who when asked how they made it 47 years, sweetly and each independently credit the other for it

3. seeing the perfect gift and sending it, only to then wonder if you had done the same thing before- that’s the sign of a good gift!

4. Lovey’s parents and brother taking time to come be with us during these holidays

5. parents laughing uproariously at my 4 year old’s misbehavior- somehow that makes it not seem so bad

6. NPR on in the background

7. Tom & Jerry mix flown in from Wisconsin

8. Sweet and unexpected holiday presents

9. the 4 year old asking each day if it is Christmas and time for presents

10. Nana & Zuzu getting painting time in together

11. Nana & the Quail getting snuggle time in together

12. Lovey & his parents getting time in for a nice walk

13. Lovey & his brother getting some time in together after we’re all asleep

14. Zuzu awarding Uncle Scottie her crown for his birthday

15. Bapa providing

16. many invitations to holiday lunches at work when my own team is not in my office

17.Nana’s wrappings of ribbon and folds

18. sparkley Christmas dresses on sparkley girls

19. an abundance of giftees

20. a 4 year old saying,” Thank you for not taking it back to the store Mommy”

21. A 22 month old’s shiny new free-stand and plop routine

corner view: take a different perspective

Try embracing ability rather than fearing disability.

In this country most children with Down syndrome are typically able to get the care and love they need to thrive. This past week there was a disturbing story going around Facebook of an infant with Down syndrome in Arkansas. He and his twin brother were intended to be adopted at birth. Sadly only one infant went home. The other was given a DNR order.  Since then, advocacy groups have stepped in and the DNR order has been lifted. Please join those of us in the Down syndrome community as we pray for the continued health of this little darling as he waits for a homestudy-ready family in Arkansas to step up and bring him into his forever family and that he gets the medical intervention that is needed in order for him to live.

Thankfully, this story is the exception here in this country. In Eastern Europe and other parts of the world this isn’t the case.  As November draws to a close and with it National Adoption Month; I thought I would take this week’s corner view as an opportunity to share a wonderful organization with you. An organization that takes a different perspective on the value of the lives of children born with Down syndrome in countries where that is seen as a burden rather than a blessing.  Reece’s Rainbow is a non-profit organization that helps children who have Down syndrome (and other disabilities) internationally find their “Forever Families”. During November and December they sponsor an Angel Tree where you can see pictures of some of these sweet children and donate to their adoption fund. This money will go towards the costs of funding an adoption for one of these sweet children. If you donate at least $35 before December 15, you will receive an ornament with a picture of the child you donated to on it.

I wrote about this topic last year. And as I went through my archives this year to look at it again I was tickled to see one of the little angels from this tree, Mallory as one of the pictures I had high-lighted again. Dear Sandra and her lovely family have joined the ranks of forever families and brought her home just this past season. You can read about their journey here in adopting Mallory and Peach. There are so many lovely families that have given the gift of a forever family and a chance at life itself for these children. Jennifer’s, Lisa’s, Lacey‘s and Michelle’s to name a very small few.

Visit these blogs, consider adoption or donating to one of these sweet children. Let your heart and eyes see how different life can be if you just choose to see it that way.

Here are just a few of the sweet angels needing forever families:

See what’s going on around the world:

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Quailday: Ladybug-Cheetah

 

The Quail had a mid-holiday costume change as well. She went to school as a ladybug stister to her mommy’s purple flower but unfortunately an untimely accident made a need for a costume change for the rest of the weekend.

Although contrary to rampant speculation, I don’t believe she felt “cheetahed” out of a princess costume! She was a happy little itty-cat all weekend long inspite of the ban on candy in her Elmo. She’s sweet enough without it!

Gratitude Journal: Gratitude for services

Not so very long ago, it was much harder to raise your child that has special needs in your home. I’m thankful every day that our little family was created in the here and now. Here are just a few of the things we are thankful for.

1. Early Intervention

2. Our pediatrician

3. Our pediatric cardiologist

4. Our pediatric surgeon

5. Our Children’s Hospital

6. Our children’s hospital that will do the Quail’s OHS if it ends up being needed

7. Our OT and PT

8. Our feeding specialist

9. Our geneticist

10. Our Down syndrome Family Alliance

11. Our Family Connection

12. Our preschool

13. Our speech therapist

14. The Babycenter Down syndrome boards

15. Downsed International

16. Advocates like Dave Hingsberger that make me think

17. Friends like Pudge & Zippy that tickle our funny bones

18. Places like The Waisman Center that educated me and do so much to further our understanding of disability

18. Friends like Down syndrome New Mama  & Einstein Syndrome who help us get to know each other and understand our little ones.

19. Photographers like ConnyBethany that help make it even easier to see the beauty in what for some is difficult.

20. Publications from Woodbine House that help a new mom & dad know exactly what to do when, to help their little one with a little extra, know every last little thing they should!

21.  American Association on Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities

22. The Arc

 23. Disability Studies, Temple U 

24.  BLOOM

25. DownSyndrome

26. Down syndrome: Health Issues

27.  Down Syndrome for New Parents

28. National Association for Down syndrome

29. Buddy Walk

30.  Special Olympics

31.  R-Word,

32.  The National Down syndrome Congress

33.  National Down Syndrome Society

34.  NDSS National Policy Center

35.  Patricia Bauer

36.  Oz Squad

37.  Reece’s Rainbow

38.  The Recreation Council of Greater St. Louis

39. The T21 Traveling Afghan Project

40.  Jennifer Graf Gronenberg , Kathryn Lynard Soper , Gifts and the other Holland officienados who will help you get there

41. Down Syndrome Pregnancy support and resources

42. And all  the amazing bloggers that share our daily lives and experiences. Check the sidebar here for just a few. Yes, really those aren’t anywhere near all of them that are out there. As you visit them, note their sidebars and all the others that have graced us with just a little of their time, energy, wisdom and charm so that we know that nowadays- we aren’t alone. We’re in this together. It takes a village, and I’m grateful for mine.

Quailday:PPU with Sara Rosenfeld Johnson

The Quail’s been a busy bird in terms of her eating in the last few months. This has probably been the most challenging area for us. Mostly it’s the learning curve of repeatedly finding out that you don’t know exactly what all is going on inside that little digestive tract and it’s openings. We’ve been doing oral-motor therapy since the Quail was about 5.5 months old under the supervision of our super OT Kathy. Last spring we had the opportunity to take part in one of Sara Rosenfeld Johnson’s traveling clinic and get a formal evaluation. This happened after our first swallow study and Upper GI and before the infamous duodenal stenosis repair. Since that time the Quail’s been on a bit of a diet yo-yo. Right after surgery she gained 2 lbs within a month. This isn’t too surprising considering that even with all the roadblocks she had to good nutrition she managed to plant her weight firmly at the 50% growth curve on the standard charts. As her food world has opened up, she has dived in with vigor. Since that time she has been working her way through Sara’s straw hierarchy and working on the bite tube set. She’s advanced to being able to chew a lot more soft, meltable type foods in a munching style. The straws have helped tremendously with tongue retraction and she does keep her tongue in its little warming hut most of the time. Both Kathy and Sara have been great about offering up and trying a variety of suggestions of oral-motor exercises and when one doesn’t work, getting rid of it and moving on to something else. Sara has been clear that the more enjoyable the activity is for the Quail the more successful we will be with the oral-placement therapy and the safer and happier eating will be with the added bonus of clearer speech as she grows.

Have I mentioned before how much of a…ahem…temper…the Quail can have when she doesn’t like or want to do something? There’s no bossing this girl around. We tried our best to be prepared for the program plan update. Sara comes through town 2 times a year and you can get a plan update, record the session and bring your entourage of therapists and family members along to learn the protocol and understand the therapy better. The Quail packs a roomful and we’re grateful for all the extra time out of everyone’s busy days that they have been able to muster to join us.

In preparation we repeated the swallow study last week in hopes of good news that maybe we could cease thickening her liquids. The straw hierarchy is supposed to be practiced with think liquids, but since it hasn’t been safe for the Quail we’ve thickened it to a nectar consistency since our swallow study last April. I guess what I found out is that I didn’t know exactly how aspiration and dysphagia worked. I thought as she got older and stronger she would have more control. The SLP who did the swallow study said that typically what happens is that when a growth spurt happens and her “equipment” grows; she has to work her muscles harder to achieve the same result. So her risk for aspiration may actually vary as she ages. She said that until she is 8-10 years old mentally we wouldn’t be able to intentionally work on swallowing exercises. So for now the best way to develop her skill is practice with safe foods. During this swallow study she showed micro and actual aspiration with liquids up to a honey consistency. This was disappointing because last April she was cleared for a nectar or thinner consistency with the liquids. It was noted though that with the honey consistency and an upright position and proper chin-tuck she showed no difficulty or aspiration when she drank through the therapeutic straw. So that was good news. The other issue was that while she munched meltables like Puffs, she was swallowing other solid foods whole. So the recommendations were to continue with the straw drinking and to work on chewing.

I’ll back up and say that at this point we have randomly tried various foods. There are some- like taffy, steak, deli meats that we instinctually knew not to try but others like cubed bits of apple or small bites of a chip and fruits that we have tried. Sometimes she’s gagged and thrown up and other times it’s just slipped on down. Sara pointed out with things like wet, slippery noodles and pieces of fruit that the Quail would briefly suck on the piece before swallowing it whole. She still has difficulty with tongue lateralization  and would flip the piece of food over in her mouth with her tongue rather than moving it back and forth. So we have an approved list of foods. I had typed up all of the ones she eats routinely before we went in. And we now are clear to not vary her diet for the immediate future from these items so we don’t endanger her.

Her biting has greatly improved, but is still pretty weak on her right side. So the best exercise for that- is chewing! Which the Quail is happy to assist with. We now will offer bite-size pieces of about a 1/4-inch to either molar, with double the offerings to the right or weaker side to give it a bit more of a work out.

We’re holding off on teaching her to spoon feed and restricting her independent feeding now too. Not because she isn’t capable of learning this. She really likes to feed herself and is happy to have you show her how to use a spoon hand over hand. But remember that temper I mentioned before? Well when she doesn’t like something she is a pistol. We want to preserve her willingness to let us in her mouth as long as possible. Sara felt confident that at some point in the near future, the Quail would most likely insist on feeding herself and at that point how frequently she lets us in her mouth for exercise and safety precautions would greatly diminish.

I felt a little sad at this change, not that I think the Quail will mind at all. She’s all for a personal feeder. But it did feel like going backwards in her progress. That being said, mealtimes have been extremely nerve-wracking for the last few months as we have watched her squirrel away food in her little cheeks and watched the morsels make a home just under the roof of her mouth as she struggles between trying to clear the food from her mouth and wanting to simultaneously stuff the food in her mouth as fast as she can get to it. So ultimately I think the slowing down is a wise and safe choice. She’ll get to independent feeding soon enough. It’s important she learn how to eat safely and build up her strength.

The other issue that felt like a step back was that for the next month we are going to thin out her purees and she will drink the main portion of her meal after she’s had chompers training with the table food. When we used the spoon to feed her she would push her tongue out in eagerness to get to the food and it would become a struggle to get her to use her lip to take the food off the spoon. In essence the spoon was encouraging tongue protrusion and undermining the work we had been doing with the straw and syringes on tongue retraction. So it’s smoothies and protein shakes for a while for this girl!

She did good with her Ellie Jiggler while we were there- which was surprising. She consistently bites the ear of poor Ellie at home. But with Sara’s practiced hand we were able to elicit one time. Sara felt that if she can do it then we work on it. But at the point in which we struggle with her to not bite it then we move on to another activity. She now will use the red and yellow chewy tubes for biting practice as well.

The other major change was that oral-motor exercises are now to be done at times other than mealtimes. In the last month or so the girl has been more than a little uncooperative as she salivates at the prospect of her meal coming and shoots withering looks and pteradactyl-like screams at our heads as we try to convince her that Ellie Jiggler is just as fun as a cheeseburger. Hopefully removing the exercises from mealtime will help make them and the mealtimes more pleasant all the way around.

Quail day: The evolution of Dadaism and other notables in our household culture….

I’ve been a wee bit disorganized of late. Every time I go to create a post some little household necessity pops up and the posting has to wait. The thing is- it’s so easy to think nothing is changing and easy to get worried that the delays are increasing and all the therapy isn’t helping. It seems like we’ll see or here a new sound or activity or response, get all excited and then it goes away for a number of weeks before resurfacing. Then I take the time to make a list; look back over the last few updates to see what was documented and see that there is so very much going on. I wish I had more time to share it in detail but for now some shorts will have to suffice.

Some shorts and notables of late on the Quail’s radar:

5/5/10: I clearly heard the word “Hi!” when I lifted her carseat to carry her into a talk Sara Rosenfeld Johnson was giving. She was apparantly warming up for entertainment. We took her to the talk that was being given to local speech therapists and families on oral-motor planning and therapy techniques figuring our quiet as a mouse girl would just blend in. Instead she surprised us by babbling the entire hour. Essentially one of us had to carry her out into the hall and miss the presentation entirely. I was a bit emberrassed to be so disruptive, but in the same respect- a room full of speech therapists can’t really criticize a kiddo initiating babble right? 

5/18/10- During Speech- she said Mama! First time- second time we’ve heard a successful mmmmm sound- did get one mmmmmm during OT months ago

5/23/10- Laughter- pure, golden, bubbling laughter in the night. Lovey had picked her up out of her bed for a quick snuggle before bed while I put Ms. Zuzu down- and as Zu drifted off I could hear it plain as day for the first time, continued belly laughter. He was holding her facing him and she was trying to “feed” him her blankie and giggling when he went num, num, num. She was initiating it and laughing SO hard- and SO long for her- real gutteral-pleased-joyful laughter. Or home has never felt so light and lovely.

5/22/10: Also this weekend something changed in the tone of her babble- to it not sounding so much like babble and more like a response in nonsense and like she is talking to us or herself. It’s hard to describe other than that. We’ll here it when we are talking about her bottle, her diaper…it sounds like she is trying to say the word.

5/22/10: Dancing! Baby girl was sitting on the floor and briefly started bouncing her bum to the rhythm of the music!

5/24/10: More teeth- She already had gotten since her first birthday her bottom center two. Now post surgery her top center left and her bottom left molar are poking their steely tips through.

6/04/10: And more teeth, the other ginormous center top right. I swear it’s a race to push through the gum facefirst or straight down. It’s like a tiny guillotine keeping her up at night.

6/12/10: Dada- she saw, she noted, she greeted with a wave: “Da da”. We squawked, we circled and we chortled back. The game has begun.

6/16/10: Dada rules and what a pleasant greeting- when she spots him: “Hi Dada”. Also when she hears him in another room, she will quietly say Dada to herself.

6/19/10: The top left molar side is poking through- the kid can’t get a break.

6/23/10: Army crawling in earnest- the left arm is still bent and she’s on her elbow- the right arm is straight- 3 pulls forward for the kiddo!

6/25/10: Miss Kathy said it was time to give up the middle of the night bottle- well apparantly we just needed to let the Quail know! Now that the teethers are through she seems to be able to sleep through the night. She’s been doing this off and on but each time a tooth gets close to poking through it breaks the cycle for a few days but then she gets back on track

7/5/10: The true hi-light of our trip, we found her motivation- Ice Cream! I was able to hold out bites to her and she was willing to crawl 5-6 pulls, eat the bite and then repeat- for a good 15 minutes or loop and a half! My mom promptly informed me she comes by it honestly- it was how they motivated me to crawl.

7/13/10: Solid meltables are no match for her pearly chompers! We got the go ahead to keep giving her meltables. I had tried it over the weekend and after one gag- she got it and chomped away. We had discussed in SLP that maybe part of her upset during mealtime was the need to feed herself or have some control over it. So we now have puff parties. Some puffs for both the girls and a straw cup for each and they share their snack. So cute until the moment that the cup gets plunged over the side of her tray.  We’re also using the puffs as a Hansel & Grettal style of developmental play motivation. We leave a trail of puffs where she can clearly see the first one and she’ll crawl along finding her way to the end of the path.

7/17/10: Scrambled eggies are a hit! With a little one who is used to only purees it’s monumental when she is able to chomp a food and not gag. Also- frosting. With the plethora of birthday parties this summer it’s only right that she get to share our weekend indulgences.

7/22/10- We’re working on her transitioning from belly to sitting and sitting to belly. The puffs work well for this as well- put one fairly far out- not so far that she isn’t interested but so far that that just leaning isn’t sufficient to get it. She will go down and crawl over to it. She’s also now started laying on her side with her top leg either bent so the foot sole is on the floor or in a mini-pilates scissor kick going up and down. The great thing about this position- she’s getting herself into it and propps up the arm that’s on the bottom- so she ends up bearing weight and strengthening that shoulder. Mostly because it takes her a bit to get out of that position. If we were to hold her there she would scream. But she’s managed to get herself into it and we scream in delite. Picture George Costanza and the “portrait” he had done of himself…

7/25/190 “Baby!” We both heard it! Woo-woo! Lovey and I were fixing dinner and the Quail had just finished up her snack. Lovey handed her the infamous Baby Kira- one of Zuzu’s precious babies- TQ picked it up and uttered Baby! Of course we spent the next 10 minutes trying to get her to repeat it with no luck- but much like Hi and Mama  and Dada- we heard it so it’s officially on the radar!

corner view: daily

Now ask us about our out–of-the-ordinary days!

Celebrate Bloomsday traveling around the world to see other’s daily lives:

Hero Worship

Dear Pudge,

I’ve decided I’d like to emulate you. My mom thinks I might be taking things too far. I had surgery recently and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my meals since then. The doctor told me I’ve gained 1 lb in two weeks. My mom thinks that’s too much. I think I”m just making up for lost time. At any rate, I’d just like to show you that I’ll take your Pudge, and see you a dinner roll thigh and arm or two.

Much love, The Quail (soon to be Big Bird)