Have you met Karen Maezen Miller? Either in real life or online or in good-old-fashioned print? She’s one of my literary and Zen heros. As mentioned in my “Meet the Family” page I find I relate best to Zen parenting books in my aspirations of the kind of mother I want to be, and I do mean that in both definitions of kind. I know, I know- anyone who knows anything about Zen practice would probably be appalled by my striving to be Zen- it’s in line with when I used to repeatedly run late and have to hurry up to get to yoga class to finally settle in and find some peace of mind.
The book, Momma Zen was one of my favorites from my first parenting year. I remember when I was bringing it to work with me to read during my break times while I was pumping. I remember another coworker who was also a pumping mother saw me reading it and I tried to explain how I liked the sheer idea of Zen parenting. She laughed at me and told me to let her know how well that works in a few months. I squared my jaw, shook my head and headed into the friendly barn at work to pump (our lovely euphemism for the room they let us milk ourselves in at work) and read. Then I found her website Cheerio Road and found myself pondering her eloquent thoughts on a regular basis. The one that touched me the most and let me know that indeed I do have a home in this school of thought was actually this one. Her list of letting go happened to coincide with my return to work post maternity leave with The Quail. The final line- “Baby is always right on schedule” has become my momtra in learning to live, love and learn with a baby who doesn’t necessarily develop according to the timelines that “the books” predict. I have it posted at work so I can look at it when I feel worried that she isn’t sitting like the other babies are or rolling the other babies are or talking like the other babies are.
Which by the way- yesterday she started sitting independently in that wonderful Weebles wobble way (we’ll continue to work on the not falling down part) yesterday- a day before she turned 7 months old. She started rolling from back to side with the occasional flip all the way to belly the week before and blowing raspberries in the last week as well. And did you notice- the first picture ever where you can see her little neck!
Baby is right on schedule.