corner view: me

This picture is funny to me because it symbolizes the post-partum gift from my children. I was born with stick-straight hair. I had my perm years but out-grew them once college hit. I then spent much time and product straightening it- you know trying to fit in? But one day last month I realized when I let it air-dry- it was now naturally wavy. I don’t know why I didn’t see it before. But I’m working on embracing it and just going with it. It somehow seems a  metaphor for life, no?

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Quailday: Santa’s list is wavering…

The naughties have started literally in the last month with:

*hitting her sister

*dumping toys filled with water out of the tubby-not by accident- but by very deliberate leaning as far over to get it on the floor dumping

*pulling a David Copperfield swoosh-style removal of the tablecloth resulting in the breaking of the butter dish

*biting Momma

*biting Momma again

*yanking Momma’s hair and making eye contact looking for the reaction

*pinching Momma

*swiping toys out of Sissy’s lap

*fake crying

*Dramatic flop-downs on the ground

*dropping poor honey-bear off the highchair tray

*then switching hands and dropping him off the other side when Momma goes in for the block- all with most excellent eye contact!

*screaming her little head off in concert with the dramatic drop down log roll on to the mat at therapy, then recovering with lightening speed when Puffs are offered

*putting her tiny pudgy hand firmly over her heart when the bottom lip jutts out in protest of the No wavering on your lips…

Quailday….things that make you go hmmmmmm….and other communication quirks.

The Quail has things to say. If only we spoke her language! This little gesture right here popped up on a random Wednesday in the beginning of June. It’s one of the first consistent, deliberate, obviously trying to tell the person she does it to gesture. Only problem is- no one knows what it means. The same afternoon that we saw it at home, her teachers had gone home wondering what it could mean. The next morning when I was talking to her teacher she asked me what it meant and I replied that was funny because I was going to ask her the same question! It’s too cute though- she looks at you, grins and puts her arms up. Then if you do it back- she’ll do it again and laugh.It will go on and on for a good 15 minutes. We’ve debated, “Oh no!”; ” So big!” and just to be silly. But I don’t think it’s either of those. Recently though I started up an old fave of a game- “Where’s the Quail?” Which usually involves covering her head with a blanket and she pulls it off, or the converse of covering my head and asking the question and she pulls the blanket off. Only this time I didn’t have a blanket- I was just going to cover my eyes with my hands- and her hands flew up to her head and she broke out into a grin. It’ll take a few more trials to be sure- but I’m thinking it may have been her initiating this game. As I was typing this it occurred to me that when the blanket goes over her head this is probably what she looks like underneath it before she pulls it off. Time will telll….

We’re also working on more. It comes and goes. I know it’s one of the more abstract signs and we’ve heard it can actually be one of the harder ones to master for that reason. We had started with it with Zuzu when she was a tike though because much like her sister, the start of the terrible two tantrums, that typically begin around 18 mos- but for both of our little overachievers, seem to come a little earlier; reared their ugly heads at dinnertime. I know- they are tired, worn out and have had to hold it together all day long. So they get home and mom pulls out the green food when what they really wanted was orange. All hell breaks loose. So we started with more. We’ve had minimal success though  at the mealtimes. There is a lot of back arching, throwing things off the tray, open-mouthed squawling when a New York minute passes between the ingestion of the first bite and the offering of the second, and third, and forth…

Mealtime is no time to teach a language lesson for this bird though. She can bring her hands to midline and we’ve been working on this since before she turned a year, albeit not consistently. The times I see her do it with next to no prompting are times when she has her direct gaze already on you and is quietly focused on what you are doing. Which unfortunately is not mealtime. The times she has used it is when you are doing your best to entertain her and she doesn’t want it to end. Tickles…if you tickle, tickle and oop- stop….you’ll get her version of more- 2 claps-not the wildly excited clapping mixed with laughter that her sister can draw out of her by screaming “BOOGIE!” in her face and then running down the hall only to turn on heal and repeat 400 times. No-that’ s a special kind of excitement reserved for the bond between sisters. This is a very intent, hear me now, Queenly gesture of 2 claps. The other time I get it is when she is laying down getting a diaper change and I stop to sing to her and do her hands in the gestures for either Twinkle, Twinkle, Itsy Bitsy Spider or Pat-A-Cake. The Queen will demand an encore with a very dignified stare down and 2 claps. Lately when you ask her where her spiders are, the motor-planning-arm-flapping starts and as you lead her arms up into “up came the Sun” her arms will lift up on their own. Me thinks she likes singing and tickles. And who doesn’t!

This wave here, and that look of a hawk spotting it’s prey, well- that’s not exactly the intention. but this- this is definitely her first sentence, “Hi Dada!” This is daddy’s lil girl to a T. He was walking up the sidewalk here when she spotted him coming. When she hear’s his voice, a quiet rumbling of dada starts, when she sees him- she beams! “HI DADA!!!!!” And she becomes a wiggley sack of sugar trying to melt into him. We’ve been trying to capture her patting his head on film and it’s become a bit Loch Ness to us. It exists but is fading and we haven’t been able to capture it on film. She used to hold both of our faces in her pudgy little hands too, we miss that!

The other little gesture we’ve yet to capture is her placing her hand over her heart. She’s always had a great pout- a lower lip jutted out calling all birdies to perch sort of lip when she’s sad. Now it goes a step further- just to really sock it to you she places her hand over her heart while she is jutting. It is almost enough to make you forget why you told her no in the first place!

A peach of a mama…

Have you met Ds Mama? Well she’s expecting- 2, not twins- but heart-made sisters that will grace their lives with much beauty and joy. Peach & Mallory are two sweet girls from Eastern Europe that are on their way to their forever family courtesy of Reece’s Rainbow. Ds Mama has committed to bringing these girls home and has started raising funds to get them here as quickly as possible.  The painting noted here is part of her fundraiser. Head over to read the details and consider participating.

Ds Mama is a wonderful resource, advocate and friend in our community and we are thrilled that she has decided to take these two beauties into her loving home. These girls couldn’t ask for a better mama!  She’s been a real blessing in our family’s lives as we’ve navigated this new world. She’s a peach of a mama- so it’s only fitting that she become the mama for Peach- and sweet Mallory too. Bless you on your journey dear- we’ll all be following along

Mommaday: Holiday Hi-lights!

We spent the 4th of July with my parents! The trip itself was a long one. We had a flight cancelled about halfway there and ended up staying overnight in Minneapolis. Then were rerouted to another airport in order to make it there in time for fireworks.  We had a few other kinks, like our carseats going on to the original airport and not following us and a panicked Momma over the dwindling supply of diapers and pureed foods that were carried on and therefore available this side of security. But our spirits were bright- mainly due to our little girls and their happy-go-lucky-attitude they must have summoned from beyond. We were able to borrow a couple of carseats from the airport to help us get to my parents’ home safely and got an additional sight-seeing adventure worked in along the way.

In the meantime all the extra airport time alloted us:

plenty of tummy time for the Quail.

time for resting…

dinner and a show

some serious Little People reinactments

time for crawling practice disguised as relay races…

and time with the happiest kid that ever spent 2 days in an airport!

We finally got on an airplane and were headed west when we looked out the window and were grateful we hadn’t any red luggage:

and celebrated our lack of red luggage with this:

I love airplane food almost as much as I love hospital and school cafeteria food! That’s not sarcastic either! Give me airplane cookies any day of the week- when I found they started selling them in the store I breathed a sigh of relief that I could lay off pressuring the airline attendants for spares. Fortunately my newfound laid-back attitude has reaped what it has sewn!

More pictures of the actual kiddos on holiday to come!

Gratitude Journal

1. Family to visit

2. Safe travels

3. a hotel to keep us overnight

4. an airline to pay for said hotel

5. nice people trying to make the best of an unpleasant situation

6. cheerful small ones who think this is all just part of the adventure

7. grandparents willing to change their plans to come get you

8. a Wall Drug donut along with free ice water and 5 cent coffee

9. perfect poo-poo timing on a long trip

10. airport carseats

11. a nice lady getting us grown ups coffee and yogurt for the baby while we wait

12. seeing the joyful spirit in your children

13. the delight on Zuzu’s face as she keeps trying to hold the little chick

14. the delight on the Quail’s face as she figures out she can crawl over to kiss mama

15. the delight on the Quail’s face as she figures out it’s cherry ice-cream in the bowl- not just plain yogurt!

16. a smooth unassisted transition from sitting to lieing down

17. extra airplane cookies

18. a childhood favorite- home-made pizza

19. a childhood favorite- original scent Jergens lotion!

20. childhood pictures to browse through and remember and smile over

21. a baby crawling without support!